WHY DO PEOPLE REALLY CHEAT?

WHY DO PEOPLE CHEAT?

Have you ever cheated on your partner or been cheated on, and you wonder why they do it after all the sacrifices you have made? Well here is a suggestion as to why people cheat.
You may already know that cheating is quite common these days and the reasons are multiple. Rather than reviewing the many reasons people cheat, I'm going to focus on one of the main one--  craving emotional connection

         In my study, only very small percentage of cheating men said they were after the sex as compared to larger percentage who reported it was the desire for emotional connection that drove the impropriety. 89% percent of cheaters said the mistress was not better looking or in better shape than their wives. It is just not as simple as wanting sex. Then why, you would ask. Most cheating occurs after he’s formed some close friendship with the woman with whom he will eventually cheat. When men feel emotionally disconnected at home, too many make the horrifying choice to find it somewhere else instead of working to reconnect with their wives. Often, they too are surprised at how their emotional friendship turned into something deeper and physical when that was not their original intention.
       We don’t protect our marriages or relationship. Chemistry is powerful, and people are deeply searching for companionship and love. When a couple is not actively engaged in nurturing their love, they risk danger. Not that cheating is ever justified; it is an ugly choice. But the similar desire to be actively in love has brought us together or driven us to marry, and sadly, can drive many to look outside their marriages or relationships for that love as well. This is why men must be careful not to even allow close friendships to form with other women. They might say it’s fair game, but we need to be developing closer connections in our home, not away from it. If you have found yourself enjoying another woman’s friendship, you need to ask yourself things like: when have I laughed like that, or had a great discussion, or had a fun time, or had a great meal, etcetera, with my wife? Typically, it’s been too long, and it’s time to bring that energy home and work to renew your loving connection.